Mediation Ground Rules

Mediation Ground Rules

  1. We agree to take turns speaking and not interrupt each other.
  2. We agree to call each other by our first names, not “he” or “she.”
  3. We agree to refrain from blaming, attacking, or engaging in put-downs.
  4. We agree to stay focused on the future, and structuring our relationship around the future we would like to create.
  5. We agree to stay away from establishing hard positions and express ourselves in terms of our personal needs and interests and the outcomes that we wish to realize.
  6. We will ask questions of each other for the purposes of gaining clarity and understanding.
  7. We agree to listen respectfully and sincerely try to understand the other person’s needs and interests.
  8. We recognize that, even if we do not agree with it, each of us is entitled to our own perspective.
  9. We will speak up if something is not working for us in mediation.
  10. While in mediation, we will refrain from adversarial legal proceedings (except in the case of an emergency necessitating such action). If there is a problem that needs to be resolved, we will try to work it ourselves or with the help of the mediator.
  11. If we feel the mediator is not being impartial or neutral, we will say so.

 

Adapted from Sample Ground Rules by James Melamed, August 1998, Mediate.com